This is how Eve Online and its players has helped me

I thought I would take the time to update this blog and really spell out everything Eve Online has done to help me as a Veteran with post traumatic stress disorder and Traumatic Brain Injury. Please bear with me the details may go into some length but after getting the chance to go to a legitimate “Eve Meet Up” at Eve New England and get the chance to explain to some non veteran eve players I thought spelling all of this out so I can get it out to the wider audience of Eve Online was a worthwhile goal going forward with this project to illustrate how helpful it can be for people like me.

My first experience with Eve Online goes back to 2007 when I made my first character. It was all so new but I didn’t have any real bearing in game and my schedule and the games complexity meant I wouldn’t be continuing to explore New Eden.

In July of 2008 I was deployed to Kunar Province Afghanistan as part of “Task Force Duke”. Being a member of Charlie Co.1st Battalion 26th Infantry Regiment (The Blue Spaders) we were put on a small combat outpost called “Seray” manned by 30 U.S. personnel and a platoon of Afghan National Army. What proceeded was a year of the hardest fighting seen in the Global War on terror with casualty tolls putting our Battalion at the top of the sustained casualty list of units during Operation Enduring Freedom 8-9 (not exactly a list one wants to make it on). We fought to defend our small outpost which was one of the first stops for foreign fighters pouring through the Pakistani border during that time. During the fighting season we would be attacked 3, 4, even 5 times a day with small arms like AK47’s and  PKM’s to large munitions such as the Russian SPG-9 (an anti tank rocket) and DShk (Russian made 50. cal Machine gun) with armor piercing rounds to very large munitions like the Chinese made 107mm rocket. It was quite the experience to say the least and more than a few times I was knocked around by explosions which caused traumatic brain injury (I would find this out when I got home). After that year I was happy to be home and ready to celebrate making it out alive and ready to live my life, day number 2 back hom I went to a movie and in it there was a 50 cal. machine gun firing in it. That’s when I had my first experience with Post Traumatic Stress my brain kicked into go time thinking it was in a dangerous situation based off of the sound of a 50 cal. being fired  (really well recorded sound might I add ).

The following is my train of thought and hopefully should give some insight to how some of this goes if you haven’t experienced it.

WHAT THE FUCK ! ? …… I need to find cover ! How did I not see this coming ! I’m usually always ready for this ! I must have been caught being lazy I didn’t see any spot where I could be engaged by a 50 cal. from ! Fuck fuck fuck …. I need cover where the fuck is all the cover? How the fuck did I let myself walk right into a place with no goddamn cover!? Wait a minute my wife is here !!!! How the fuck did she get here ?!!! I’ve got to get her someplace safe ….. shit shit shit…..where are my guys? why aren’t they returning fire? why aren’t they calling out distance and direction to the target? WHERE IN THE ACTUAL FUCK IS MY GODDAMN WEAPON!!!!!!?Holy shit I’m all alone it’s just me and my wife… This must be some kind of nightmare. It can’t be real?can it? O god please don’t let this be real….. I thought I was home.. This isn’t supposed to be happening at home we left the war back in Afghanistan.. Didn’t we?

This all took place in the matter of seconds inside my head and physiologically adrenaline started coursing through my body my heart began to race my palms got sweaty in a response to the brain thinking it was in physical danger  blood retracted to my torso in an effort to keep as much blood in the vital regions of the body in case I was damaged or shot or lost a limb causing my face to turn white as a ghost. I was holding my wife’s hand and accidentally squeezed it causing her to look over and see me losing my mind. I said to her “something is wrong.. Something is very wrong I don’t know what’s happening”.( Later I would find out this incident has caused my wife anxiety about going out in public with me and being afraid that something would go wrong while out.)

We shrugged this off as something that would go away the longer I was home this would get better it’s just so soon after getting back that’s all.  Turns out it wasn’t and this is something I would be dealing with for the rest of my life. I moved to a new duty station with my unit and got to the task of training new soldiers the ways of the Spader Battalion and preparing them for a future deployment to Afghanistan less than a year later. Now in this time I had a hard time getting out and being hyper vigilant while at the grocery store or anywhere else. To the point where I really didn’t go anywhere but I was working so much that “it wasn’t a big deal right? I mean it will go away with time that’s what they told me.” A year after we would find ourselves at the National Training Center in Ft.Irwin CA doing our pre-deployment train up and certification to go.

This would be another milestone in this journey. It was the first night of the 2 week combat simulation (basically roleplaying being at actual war) and one of the Controllers of the training tossed 3 or 4 artillery simulators right by my tent that I was in. My battle brain ticked on and took over. I mean took over, my body was going through the exact motions I had done so many times responding to an attack in Afghanistan. Picture watching a movie play out in first person view while wearing an oculus rift , no control just watching it play out. My body was acting on muscle memory while I watched due to the initial shock of thinking it was back in Afghanistan. One of the controllers noticed some strange behavior (I’ll leave it at that) and pulled me out of the training. I got pulled out to go see the Psyche doctor they had there and when we returned home from training I was pulled out of my unit and they were deployed the next month. One of my soldiers I had trained was killed by an IED and I spent that whole year getting medically retired from the Army on a cocktail of anti psychotics and anti depressants. Faced with the prospect of not being an Infantryman ever again I freaked out and tried pushing my wife away from me almost causing us to get a divorce. I was spiraling through a really dark place filled with self doubt , self loathing for being so weak that I was getting kicked out because I had Post Traumatic Stress, and having a conflict of identity. I medically retired from the Army in October of 2012 and headed back home for the East Coast.

I was no longer in the Army I was no longer someones NCO or Team leader I was no longer me or so I thought. I tried the meds for about a year. They didn’t help they gave me a horrible quality of life and put weight on me that I never had before in my life. I started looking for something to do with my time and I had a bright idea.. Eve Online! It was supposed to be hard core it was supposed to be something I could really put some time into. I started a new account chose the name J Mcclain (since I’m a big fan of die hard and yes I know it’s not spelled right lol ).

I tried out high sec for a month and it was boring for me so I looked around and found Gallente Faction Warfare. That’s where my real fun began , and little did I know that’s where my help began too. I began when Gal Mil started taking systems away from the Russians in Essence trying to sweep the war zone. I was in my cheaply fit frigate and jumped on the Gal Mil Team speak and hopped in the fleet that was fighting in the plexes. As that first weekend passed I starting talking with one of the guys leading the effort System shark  and come to find out he was a British Royal Army Veteran. I jumped corps to join him in his effort seeking that Veteran connection and someone who I could talk with. He was extremely positive and in the weeks to come we shared war stories and talked about Army life and all the things in between. It was great jumping point for me to be able to get into conversations with new people and feel like I belonged to something, I belonged in Gal mil. come to find out there were a whole mess of other veterans in there that I would come to know and share stories with. I got motivated by system shark to start going to the gym again I had stopped taking the pills that had made me feel terrible, I started to feel like I was me again.

It dawned on me that what I was missing that could make me feel whole again was a community , veterans I could talk things out with. It was during Eve Vegas that I had gotten the Idea to start “Best of Us” channel in game and I called upon Harrigan VonStudly who I had listened to on the Podside podcast and asked him to talk to FrFrm pukin who was the host of podside if he would help me out to get the ball rolling and the word out about a channel and community effort for us so we could have a place to talk to other vets and hopefully get some help out of the effort. p[ukin was an amazing help and supporter of the effort since he was a military veteran himself and had his own run in with mental health problems. I started making the rounds of Podside podcast , High Drag podcast , the Wiggles show, and the Open Comms show. I found a great and welcoming community here doing podcasts and have developed some friendships with many of the great guys who do it.

This past March I was doing better things weren’t as bleak and I could see improvement. I found out there was an Eve meet up in Boston and thought about going but wasn’t certain if I was quite ready to go into a major city with out the company of my wife to help me when things got bad for me. Time came and we found out CCP Guard was going to be there and Dirk Macgirk and shadow and light were going as well. Dirk offered to let me crash at his hotel with him and I was off for the first time by myself going outside the house for an extended period of time for the first time in almost 2 years since getting out of the Army. The ride there nearly gave me a heart attack and I thought about turning around several times but I made it to the hotel to meet up with dirk. Meeting him in person for the first time was a seamless transition and after stashing my stuff at the hotel  we sped on our way to the Bar to meet Eve Nerds. The bar was crowded beyond belief , at least for me, and things were very uncomfortable. Then Shadow and light showed up and we started talking and having two people be there who knew how it was a struggle for me to be there who were watching out for me went a very long way to helping me feel like it was safe for me. I got to meet CCP Guard who was an absolute riot , we got drunk crashed some birthday karaoke party and really enjoyed ourselves.

I came home the next day truly excited and feeling like real steps were made. I found out once I got home a friend I had deployed with had overdosed trying to self medicate the effects of Post Traumatic Stress. I knew it was a serious problem and had seen this happening in the ranks but now it had just become so real that I didn’t know what to do with myself. This was a person who is so integral to my life changing experience and most memories I have of the good times while at war that I couldn’t process it. I redoubled my efforts and focused on more awareness of veterans suicide and have been trying to go forward with the project to get to more people since.

I have just returned from Eve New England this past week and I must say it was a resounding success. I had a great time meeting all sorts of Military Veterans as well as getting to see CCP Guard again and meeting CCP Rise for the first time.I had the unique opportunity to explain what this project is and what I hope it can accomplish to not only CCP devs but people who had no idea we existed and made new friends in the process. It was a great and welcoming environment with truly great people. It was an experience that has brought me one step closer to taking back my life and providing me the ability to reach more people that I can help.

That was how Eve Online and it’s players have helped me and continue to do so. Thank you to all the people who helped me start this and to CCP for the shout outs and Rise and Guard for letting me talk their ear off spreading the word this past week.


29 thoughts on “This is how Eve Online and its players has helped me

    • Can I just say I love finding stuff like this. Thank you for serving your country as you did, but more importantly thank you for not only finding such a way to help yourself but also bringing the help to others. I have not been in the military myself, but my father served the Canadian armed forces for 20 years as an Armored forces commander with the Royal Strathcona Light Horse, and my brother is now well into his training to do the same job as my father, likely with the RCD’s.

      My father has PTSD and I have grown up helping him deal with it and seeing what it has done to him. When we were younger and went on trips along, my brother and I along with our mother got used to his episodes enough that we could tell when he was going to have one and would set ourselves up around him, keeping people away and doing our best to get him alone with our mother, the only person he would respond positively around during such events.

      Unfortunately he never found a good way to deal with it as you have, and as such things have transpired in recent times that have made it so that none of us talk to my father anymore. So seeing this, and seeing how you have helped others at the same time as yourself, it is amazing, and I thank you so much. I can’t put enough emphasis on this. I have played EVE for years, and I am thinking of rejoining in the coming months. I may search you up and join up if you’ll have a military brat with you. Thank you again, and keep up the good work!


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    • Thanks ! It’s not an easy one to tell but if it helps to communicate what others are going through like me and starts a dialogue about getting help I’ll tell it to everyone I can until I’m blue in the face.


  2. Great post. I really regret not being able to go to New England meet up and hope that I can make it next year if they hold another one. It’s funny because I was just listening to podside episode with the meet up broadcast and get the notification from Google about this article.
    Wish you all the best with this project. Although I have no experience in these matters I would like to join the channel and participate in this community, that is if you don’t mind civilians hanging out there.


    • Anyone who wants to be a supporter of us I don’t mind being in the channel at all, it’s all abotu having a cool space where guys can feel welcome and hang out and get help if needed hope to see you in the channel bud make sure you give a wave!


      • This reminds me of an encounter I had some years ago when I was in college.

        I was at a laundromat in the middle of the night with my girlfriend and the only other person there was this guy who just came back from Iraq. We got to talking and I could literally feel the burden he was carrying. Told us some crazy stories about his tour. We parted ways after we were done but I always regretted not getting his contact info. He seemed like a very nice guy that just really was aching for a connection. At the time I didn’t think I could provide that connection because we had nothing in common and I could not relate to his experience. Now I feel as though I knew he just wanted someone to talk to and it was my fear of being inadequate is what stopped me. All I could think of at the time was wow… here’s a guy my age who has already seen life and death, been to Afghanistan and Iraq, saw his best friend killed in front of his eyes, basically went through hell and back and he’s standing here talking to some punk who can’t even muster enough willpower to get through a semester of college.

        He was cool and I wanted to help him or at least make a new friend but I was intimidated by him. Maybe it’s part of the reason why veterans feel alienated after coming back to the civilian lives. Maybe the old friends and family are also intimidated or afraid that they won’t be able to connect and help their loved ones. Maybe a simple “I don’t expect you to understand, but I appreciate you listening to me” could help. Or maybe I’m just overthinking this whole thing and have no clue what I’m talking about. Either way, I wish i was braver then and I hope he’s doing well now.


  3. Firstly let me say this with a million exclamations at the end. Thank you for your service and I am deeply sorry that you now have PTSD. I’ve always known that PTSD was serious but that paragraph where you let me glimpse into your head sent shivers down my spine. I couldn’t even begin to fathom how hard that would be to break or deal with.

    I served a small stint myself but no combat. I mention this only because I had something similar happen but to a far lesser scale. Six years after my discharge I was changing jobs to what I consider the start of my career and I was in a meeting room waiting for the meeting to begin. All of a sudden someone comes into the room and with that oh so familiar voice of authority screams “ATTENTION”. Instantly, I snapped up out of my chair and stood at attention. This is coming from a non combat veteran, 6 years after having been discharged, your situation is at least 2 billion times more intense.

    To all you other veterans out there as well: I thank you for your service!


    • Same here. I always knew PTSD was a serious problem but this story really put it into a perspective for me and gave me a glimpse into what its actually like. I always thought it was just a form of extreme depression related to stress and trauma. Never imagined it was this real in its manifestations.


  4. Hey man great write-up and I’m happy to have met you and to be your friend to this day.

    What you’ve been doing for the military community is nothing short of amazing and I find tremendous satisfaction watching you help yourself that also interns helps so many other people.

    It’s one reason I enjoy emergency services so much, because when I help others I am truly helping myself.


  5. Hey mate, just wanted to say thanks for the read. Always good to have anothers perspective.
    Not only that, but thank you for the community effort that you have made / are making.
    Cheers mate, good on ya.


  6. I always enjoyed my time best in-game alongside veterans of foreign wars. I almost stepped on the bus myself as a marine in 2001. It took not courage to stay. Not everyone’s situation is the same. I love and honor all military that joins in part for tradition, following the steps of their fathers. Maybe one day when time opens up and can play enough that I’m not suspected of being a spy I’ll come back to old Black Rise! Galmil was the only home in Eve there ever was. Thanks for the story. Eve has helped me quite a bit as well. -Oreb


  7. Sorry, I didnt mean here. I meant in game. i just started playing and was looking around for a corp and came across a few actively looking for prior service or current military and I didnt contact them…..Do I think its a likely threat, not really, but it is something to think about.


  8. My ingame used here for reference.

    Awesome story and awesome program. I checked into TS – didnt see anyone aboard. I spect this will catch on; I didnt know about Eve New England. I too served in the USAF for 6 years; have very minor PTSD; I was lucky; I trained for combat I never saw.

    The military is the best education anyone will ever get; we all knew what we signed up for; I wish I could go back sometimes, and tried after 911.

    ARMA 2/3 gives me solice. I learned how to take entire villages in ARMA 2; I know it is probly not the game for many of us as it is pretty realistic; it is sad that some play out their games in real life onto unarmed civilians.

    EVE can be very demeaning so you have to be careful; find the right niche and cliques; you can stay out of mainstream politics; I choose to become somewhat involved in it though as a roleplayer; trust me the Amarr dont like me much; but there is always room for learning and escape; EVE can provide anything you want to do; but real money is involved; they always say just “Fly what you can afford to lose”; I live by that premise in there.

    It is a great place to learn anger management !

    And the resources on the site here are great; let us not forget that no matter what in our lifetimes the sun is always shining and sometimes we need to get out and take a breath of fresh air.

    I bought myself a sailboat and am getting back into sailing; I actually want to be alone out there; it makes me appreciate what we have. I love to hike mountains; hiked Mt Olympus, the Appalachians; love to ski; trying that again after 10 years; it’s great even though I em sore as al getout for a week after one day of skiing! I need to learn to pace myself these days !

    Good Luck Here !



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